Monday, 24 February 2020

Repairing a relationship.

Monday morning again and I am very unwell today. Caught a cold from Jordan and it hit me hard in the head. Blocked sinuses, stuffy head, pressure in my face, the works. Jordan only had his basic cold for a couple of days, whereas I've been dealing with my head cold for four days so far.

But anyway, speaking of Jordan, I figured I'd spend a little time talking about how we're doing. Despite what the title of this post might suggest, our relationship isn't broken but over the last couple of years, it's hit its fair share of bumpy roads. When you've been with someone for a long time, you kind of forget to "date" one another and dating is very important for keeping the relationship fresh and the spark alive. My postnatal depression and Jordan's old job with irregular shifts, put a strain on our relationship and whilst his new job has come with it's own negatives (him working away from home 3 days a week), it's also give us back something we didn't get many of...weekends!

Jordan's hours are set and we finally have weekends back! It's been great not just for family time but our relationship too. Jordan's mum works alternating weekends so now, whenever she's got the weekend off, she watches the kids for a whole day and Jordan and I go out for a date and spend some much needed quality time together. Since Jordan started his new job a little over a month ago (Jan 14), we've been out to dinner together twice, out for coffee/hot chocolates twice and even managed to declutter, repaint/redecorate our bedroom! When he returns from working away on Thursdays, we order pizza in (which isn't great for my diet), snuggle up on the sofa and watch a movie together; and he doesn't fall asleep ten minutes in!!! We're also going away, just the two of us, for the first since we started dating! His 30th birthday is this Friday and we're going to see a performance of Spamalot, have dinner together and spend the night in a hotel with breakfast included. I cannot wait! We knew regular work hours would be super beneficial for family times and making plans to go places and visit people, but we seriously underestimated how much of a positive effect it would have on our relationship. Communication has improved, romance has improved, intimacy has improved and our overall appreciation of one another has also improved, which was surprising for me because we've always appreciated one another and I didnt think that could be improved upon!

We still do have our issues and our ups and downs but what relationship doesn't? However, since Jordan switched to a job with stable hours, our relationship has gotten so much stronger. We're repairing the damage all those bumpy roads had caused and we're a partnership again, not just a long-term relationship. I can't stress enough how important it is to date one another! It doesn't matter how long you've been together, never stop making an effort; never stop dating. I am so happy with where our relationship is right now. People, go out and date!

Until next time,
Alli xo


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