Wednesday, 8 January 2020

IngramSpark 30 Day Writing Challenge - Day One: My Dreams

Happy Hump Day everyone! Hope you're all having a good morning, afternoon, evening, whatever time it is wherever you are in the world. Today's post is going to be slightly different as I have signed up for the 30 Day Writing Challenge with IngramSpark and I decided to use my blog as the platform for day one. The challenge is more to inspire and motivate work on novel ideas but given the prompt for today, I figured it was better as a blog post. What is the prompt? Well, basically it's to just write but it suggests writing about my hope, fears and dreams. So, I figured I'd tell you about the biggest dream that my entire life has been based around.

For as long as I can remember, I have always had a dream life; the ideal goal to constantly work towards. Since the birth of my younger sister, I knew I wanted to be a mum more than anything. In grade 2 we were asked what we wanted to be when we grew up and while everyone else in class wrote your typical things like an astronaut or fireman, I wrote that I wanted to be a mum. My dad laughed hysterically at my dream profession upon seeing it displayed with the others. It was a playful laugh, not a mean laugh don't worry. But for 26 of my 29 years of life, I knew I wanted to be a mum. Now I am so that is part one of my dream ticked off. My motherhood dream doesn't stop at just becoming a mum though, no I have always wanted four kids. It's hard to say why that is, maybe because I grew up with three siblings I don't know, but I just always wanted four. Two girls and two boys ideally but I know that I may not get that. Jordan has always wanted two kids himself and he feels our family is currently complete. I don't though. I feel as though our family is like a puzzle and we're missing pieces. He knows how important a big family is to me and has agreed to having a third child for now. A fourth child isn't guaranteed with him at this stage because it depends on our circumstances in the years to come. Three is a compromise between his desire for two and my dream for four but I know I'll never be truly happy unless I get a fourth because my family will always feel incomplete. You might think I'll feel differently after having a third but remember, I've wanted four for most of my life, I'm not about to change now.

So if four kids is only part of my dream, what else am I working towards? Well, with four kids I would need a stable forever home for them to grow up in and come back to with their children; just like my siblings and I have. So I want to be able to buy/own a house someday. This is why the house drama last year effected me so badly. It's literally my dream to own a forever home for my family and I said once I own a place, I probably won't ever want to move from it. We came so close to owning a place last year but because we rejected a place that wasn't right for our family (and therefore would never have been a "forever" home), we had that dream ripped further away from us. Jordan's new job has given us new hope that we will be able to someday buy a home for our kids to grow up in. That part of my dream isn't dead yet, it's just been pushed back for now.

Of course a house and a large family is a nice dream but there's still the career aspect to cover. Again, for as long as I can remember, I've always wanted to be a teacher. More specifically, I've wanted to be a teacher that also wrote and published novels. I knew I'd never become a successful, famous author that could live comfortably off her books, so writing was always a secondary career. I'd hoped to become an English and Media teacher working at secondary school level but since being in the UK, that desire has changed a little. I hope to start a English Literature and Creative Writing bachelors degree this year and that'll be my first step towards my dream career of teaching while improving my writing skills. I'm now looking more towards primary teaching and after completing the university degree, I'll take a teaching assistant course and become a qualified teaching assistant. That will be my way into teaching. I'll start as a teaching assistant and probably hold that position until my youngest (either third or fourth child) has gone into full time school. During that time, I'll get my qualifications to become a full primary school teacher and then I will hopefully move up to a full teaching role. I'll write my novels on the side and would love to create an after-school creative writing program to teach kids to write their own stories and nurture their love for reading and writing.

As you can see, I've had my life planned out for quite a long time. I've spent half my life (literally) looking for the ideal person to pursue this dream with. I've looked for a partner who's dreams for the future wouldn't restrict mine. I wanted to be in a relationship where we supported one another to chase our dreams. I didn't want to hinder their dreams for the future anymore than I wanted them to hinder mine. It took me a while to find the right person but I have found him in Jordan. He has his own dreams for the future and I will support him every step of the way whilst still working towards my own. Of course my dreams also include marrying him some day, us owning two dogs and me driving a soccer mum car to ferry my kids from various extra curricula activities but one thing at a time.

So there you have it; my lifelong dream. In short, my dream life is four kids, in a forever home, married to Jordan, in a teaching career while working on and publishing my novels, owning two dogs and driving a soccer mum car. I've still got a way to go but I know my dream is obtainable and I will continue to work towards it every single day.

Thank you IngramSpark for today's writing challenge prompt; I feel good about getting my dreams written down. If you want to try their 30 day writing challenge, you can do so HERE!

Until next time,
Alli xo


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