Friday, 8 March 2019

Goodbye Tim

It may be Friday today but the mood is still pretty sombre in our household. Yesterday we travelled 3 hours (one way) to say our final goodbyes to an incredible man.

Tim, Vala's grandfather and my (ex-)father-in-law was loved by so many and that became apparent as we arrived at the funeral yesterday. The chapel was overcrowded! The family was incredibly touched by the turn out. I immediately choked up as we arrived at the chapel because standing either side of the entrance, creating a wall leading inside, was 40 postmen and women, colleagues of Tim. They stood 20 aside and silently stood tall to pay their respects. They stayed for the entire funeral which was an hour and a half long; 30 minutes longer than anticipated. They all delayed their postal runs, planning to complete them after the final.

The service was incredibly beautiful and moving. I cried so much and my heart ached. Vala sat with her dad for the service but as we left, following the coffin, I caught sight of Vala with her aunt; she was holding back tears. After we exited the chapel, Vala came running over with tears running down her face. She was starting to understand what was going on. She was very brave at the cemetery though, helping her dad drop a rose into the grave and also dropped some rose petals in with me. Together we said our goodbyes and returned to the chapel for the wake.

Jordan was my rock throughout the day. He held me and comforted me and gave support to many others, including Vala's dad. I'm so grateful he was able to get the day off work and for doing the long drive to and from so that we could say goodbye. Now the healing process can begin. I fear there are still many tears to be shed from me but I'm glad I was able to get some closure. Now I can start to heal.

Until next time,
Alli xo
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