Friday, 22 February 2019

With a heavy heart...

Good afternoon everyone. It is Friday the 22nd of February and it is with a heavy heart that I announce that yesterday heaven gained another angel.

My (ex-)father-in-law and Vala's biological grandfather lost his battle with an extremely rare, aggressive and incurable brain cancer. We knew the end was coming but it still hasn't made the pain any easier to cope with. There was no post this Wednesday as I was contacted by Vala's dad, informing me that his dad had been seen by the nurses and that the family had been called to come and say their goodbyes. With Vala's chickenpox, we couldn't travel down to say our goodbyes but instead relayed our love via a video call. Then at 1:15pm yesterday, as I was walking down my street on my way to the gym, I got the call. Tim had passed away 10 minutes earlier. I immediately turned back around and started crying the moment I got into the house.

Tim welcomed me into his family from the moment he met me and even though my marriage with his son didn't last, his love for me did. Even after the divorce, Tim still loved and treated me like one of his daughters. Not only that, he welcomed Jordan into the family and considered Flynn to be his grandson despite there being no relation at all. With my family on the other side of the world, I saw Tim as an adoptive father and the news of his passing has hit me hard. Jordan and I tried our best to explain the news to Vala but mercifully, she is still too young to fully understand that situation. She was upset to learn that she would never get to see her beloved grandad ever again though and told me that her dad would go live with Nanna to take care of her and her uncles now that grandad wasn't there. She has her grandads heart that's for sure.

Tim was a giant of a man with a heart bigger than he was tall. Everyone was welcome and treated as family and he shared love and compassion towards all he met. He fought his brain cancer with courage and never let it take the smile from his face nor rob him of his sense of humour. A true lion heart until the end. We will miss him so much. A huge gap has been left in our lives that can never be filled. The only thing that brings me any comfort now is knowing he is at peace and no longer suffering as he did right at the end. At least his last moments were spent peacefully, surrounded by all his family who stood by him to remind him that he will always be loved; now and in the next life.

It is with a heavy heart that we mourn his passing. This pain may take some time to recover from so please forgive any more delays with blog posts over the coming weeks.

Until next time,
Alli xo
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